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January 17, 2010 at 12:16 am Leave a comment

How To Find Love In 2010 (After Being Hurt Again)

How To Find Love In 2010

(After Being Hurt Again)

 

Love is supposed to be a good thing, but at times it can feel bad.

Sometimes, love can hurt so bad that you might wish you could die. At other times, love feels so good that you wish you could feel that way forever.

Love is something that we all need, even if we don’t like to admit it. Love is a powerful thing.

But, what do you do when you love someone so much, and they hurt you so bad?

“How do I go on and how could I ever open myself up again to someone, only get hurt like this again?????”

Easy…. you just do it.

I have learned in life that we all make mistakes, and mistakes help us grow. The more we grow…the more we learn. The more we learn…the more we can teach. With time, all wounds can be healed. We must learn to forgive and let go.

So you may ask, “How can I fall in love again, after being hurt???”

Step One: Cry

Seriously…Cry for days, weeks and even months if that‘s what it takes.

Get all of the sadness that this person caused you out of your system.

Write them letters, send them emails, leave them messages, but get it out…even if they don’t hear what you have to say.

Don’t walk around with all the weight of the pain they have caused upon your shoulders. It is can be very unhealthy, if you don’t let it go. It could cause you to bring it into your new relationship and mess up things with the next person. Take time to heal before you jump into the next relationship.

Step Two: Do something nice for yourself!

Take your self to the spa. Buy a new pair of shoes. Go and get your hair cut. Treat yourself the way you want someone to treat you. If you don’t treat yourself good, how do you expect another person to.

Step Three: Heal/Fix Yourself

Sometimes, we like to blame everyone else for our problems instead of taking responsibility for ourselves. No one owes us anything in life. If we have been dealt a bad hand, it is up to us to fix it. We can’t change the past, we can only fix ourselves for the future.

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January 8, 2010 at 9:20 pm 2 comments

5 Things A Man Should Not Let A Woman Talk Him Into

Relationship Advice – 5 Things A Man Should Not Let A Woman Talk Him Into

 

I know that a lot of Ladies are not going to like me for this, but we can’t always “male bash”. There are a lot of good MEN out there that let bad WOMEN walk all over them. So here are 5 Things A Man Shouldn’t Let A Woman Talk Him Into

 1. Talk Him into marrying Her:

relationship advice-forced marriage

Sometimes men get married for all the wrong reasons. Most of the time, the woman has talked him into doing this crazy act.

Men you shouldn’t marry a woman because she had a baby with you. You shouldn’t marry because you’re afraid she is going to leave you. And you shouldn’t marry a woman because of money.

You should marry her because you love Her. Because you to want the same things in life and are willing to work together to get them.

If you marry a woman that has talked you into marrying her, 8 times out of 10, it is going to end in divorce. So marry her because you want to.

2. Having Unprotected Sex With Her:

relationship advice-Safe Sex Condom

Everything that glitters is not gold. So, just because she looks like she is “clean“, doesn’t mean that she is. There are some nasty woman out there trying to give diseases away because someone gave it to them. Men and Women need to protect themselves because their life depends on it.

3. Cross Dress For Her:

relationship advice-Cross Dressing

NEVER let her talk you into cross dressing “for laughs” and taking pictures of it. There is no reason why a man should wear women’s clothes – that is not SEXY. They make men’s clothing for a reason and that is for men to wear them.

4. Commit a Crime

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This was mentioned in my other blog about things Women Shouldn’t let Men talk them into. The same goes for men.

Some women ask for lots of things and some men will steal and nearly kill to please their woman. This is foolish.

Your freedom is precious and you should never risk it to please someone else. If they really love you, they would never ask you for anything that would require you to risk your freedom.

5. Feeling Insecure

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 A lot of women have the tendency to make their man feel smaller. Whether or not it is on purpose, a man should always stand up for himself in these instances.

Many women are guilty of making our man feel inadequate financially, sexually, emotionally, or whatever. This is wrong and men should never allow themselves to be belittled. A woman that really loves you will encourage you and accept your imperfections, since we are not perfect either.

 

 

 

December 8, 2009 at 9:33 pm Leave a comment

5 Things You Should Never Let A Man Influence You To Do!!!!!!

5 Things You Should Never Let A Man Influence You To Do!!!!!!

If you love me, then you would _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _”- you fill in the blanks.How many times has a man told you that?ta

Or how about this one “You need to prove to me how much you love me.”

True love has no circumstances , there is only love. So there should never be a situation that calls for you to prove your love for him.

While there are a lot of things that we shouldn’t be influenced to do, these are the top 5 on my list of things.

1. Have sex with him if your not ready:

This has to be one of the biggest No-No‘s. You cannot find love in sex. Having sex with him is not going to prove to him that you love him. Even if he says that it will. You should not have sex with someone until you’re ready. So many women make this mistake and they are the only one that gets hurt in the end.

Sex, for most women, is an emotional thing. While, for most man, it is a more physical thing. So having sex with him is not proving to him that you love him.

2. Tattooing his name on your body:

I know, at the time when you’re getting his name tattooed on your body, you are thinking you’re going to be together forever. But, in most cases, that is not always true. How crazy can you be to get his name tattooed on you when he is not willing to do the same? How much does he really love you?

So, if you and the guy that you were soooo in love with decide to separate, do you really think that the next man wants to see another man’s name on your body? Would you want to see another woman’s name on his body? I know I wouldn’t.

Any man that suggests that you put their name on your body is only doing it for ownership and I’m not anybody’s property! So, tattooing his name is not an expression of love.

3.Assisting him with doing anything illegal:

 Women, nowadays, talk about being a ‘down ass chick‘. I work with plenty of women that have went to prison for doing some man’s crime. A man really doesn’t love you if he ask you to do something illegal. How can you put your life in harms way for him, especially if you have children? I’m not going to be sitting up in nobody’s jail for no man, while my child gets molested by some man in foster care – all for being a down ass chick.

My life and my child’s life are worth so much more than that. If a man convinces you to do something illegal to prove to him that you love him then you’re just plain STUPID.

4.Believing he will leave his wife for you:

I know that this is going to be a touchy topic.

No woman wants to believe that the man that they are in love with is not really in love with them. Men who are married understand that their is this thing called divorce. And if they really don’t want to be with their wife and really want to be with you, they will act on the process of getting a divorce.

Sometimes, we women are so blinded by what we want, we don’t sit down and make sense of everything that is going on in this unhealthy relationship. We just keep listening to his lies and games and continue to get caught up in his web of deception.

If he loves you like he says he does, he wouldn’t want to see you hurt and alone another day in your life. All this man is doing is playing the numbers game – seeing how long you will hang on and continue to let him use you up.

And if he really decides to leave his wife why would you want to be with this untrustworthy, dishonest, lying, cheating man. If he did it to her, what makes you think that he is not going to do it to you. He doesn’t RESPECT You He doesn’t RESPECT his wife and he doesn’t RESPECT himself.

5.Stay with him if He is beating on you:

I have seen many talk shows, TV shows, movies and was a victim myself of this very act.

“He loves me even thought he beats on me.” “NO THE HELL HE DOESN’T”

Woman, you need to get out that relationship as fast as you can before you end up DEAD.

If someone loves, you they will not hurt you on purpose. Do not allow a man to convince you to stay if he is beating on you. There is not enough words in the English Dictionary that can explain why your eye is busted up again. Why he knocked your tooth out. Why he broke your arm.

There is no reason in the world why you should let someone keep apologizing to you for doing the same act to you over and over and over again. He really doesn’t love you.

Women, please be smart in choosing who you love and what you are willing to do for them. Don’t be with someone because they look good or got a lot of money. Love someone who loves you as much as they love themselves.

November 16, 2009 at 12:46 pm Leave a comment

What Happen to Jodeci??????

November 14, 2009 at 9:32 pm Leave a comment

THE TRUTH

Song:”The Truth”
Artist:India.Arie
C.D.:”Voyage To India”

IN

Spoken : Let me tell you why I love him

Chorus:
Cause he is the truth
Said he is so real
And I love the way that he makes me feel
And if I am a reflection of him then I must be fly because
His light it shines so bright I wouldn’t lie no

Verse 1:
I remember the very first day that I saw him
I found myself immediately intrigued by him
It’s almost like I knew this man from another life
Like back then maybe I was his husband maybe he was my wife
And even,things I don’t like about him are fine with me
Cause it’s not hard for me to understand him cause he’s so much like me
And it’s truly my pleasure to share his company
And I know that it’s God’s gift to breathe
The air he breathes

Chorus:
Cause he is the truth
Said he is so real
And I love the way that he makes me feel
And if I am a reflection of him then I must be fly because
His light it shines so bright I wouldn’t lie (no)ohhhhhhhhh!

Verse 2:
How can the same man that makes me so mad
Do you know what he did-(Spoken)
Turn right around and kiss me so soft
Girl do you know what he did-(Spoken)
If he ever left me I wouldn’t even be sad no
Cause there’s a blessin’ in every lesson
And I’m glad that I knew him at all

Chrous:
Cause he is the truth
Said he is so real
And I love the way that he makes me feel
And if I am a reflection of him then I must be fly because
His light it shines so bright no

Bridge, Break-down, & Ending :
I love the way he speaks
I love the way he thinks
I love the way that he treats his mama
I love that gap in between his teeth
I love him in every way that a woman can love a man
From personal to universal but most of all
It’s unconditional

You know what I’m talking about-(Spoken)
That’s the way I feel
And I always will-(Spoken)

There ain’t no substitute for the truth
Either it is or isn’t
(Cause he is the truth)
You see the truth it needs no proof
Either it is or it isn’t
(Cause he is the truth)
Now you know the truth by the way it feels
And if I am a reflection of him then I must be fly
Because he is, yes he is
I wonder does he know -Echoes

IND2

 

November 14, 2009 at 8:11 pm Leave a comment

The Father and His Son

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The Father and His Son

When the door opens up at 6:15

 He runs to his dad waiting to get picked up impatiently.

He wants to sit on his lap at the dinner table to eat his food.

Even though this little boy is only one, he loves his dad so much that he tries to walk in his shoes.

It is a beautiful thing to see how much this little boy admires his dad.

Even when his father disciplines him and makes him sad.

So I had to write a short little blog to honor this man I love.

 For all the love that he shows our precious little son.

 

 

November 12, 2009 at 12:25 am Leave a comment

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