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How To Find Love In 2010
(After Being Hurt Again)
Love is supposed to be a good thing, but at times it can feel bad.
Sometimes, love can hurt so bad that you might wish you could die. At other times, love feels so good that you wish you could feel that way forever.
Love is something that we all need, even if we don’t like to admit it. Love is a powerful thing.
But, what do you do when you love someone so much, and they hurt you so bad?
“How do I go on and how could I ever open myself up again to someone, only get hurt like this again?????”
Easy…. you just do it.
I have learned in life that we all make mistakes, and mistakes help us grow. The more we grow…the more we learn. The more we learn…the more we can teach. With time, all wounds can be healed. We must learn to forgive and let go.
So you may ask, “How can I fall in love again, after being hurt???”
Step One: Cry
Seriously…Cry for days, weeks and even months if that‘s what it takes.
Get all of the sadness that this person caused you out of your system.
Write them letters, send them emails, leave them messages, but get it out…even if they don’t hear what you have to say.
Don’t walk around with all the weight of the pain they have caused upon your shoulders. It is can be very unhealthy, if you don’t let it go. It could cause you to bring it into your new relationship and mess up things with the next person. Take time to heal before you jump into the next relationship.
Step Two: Do something nice for yourself!
Take your self to the spa. Buy a new pair of shoes. Go and get your hair cut. Treat yourself the way you want someone to treat you. If you don’t treat yourself good, how do you expect another person to.
Step Three: Heal/Fix Yourself
Sometimes, we like to blame everyone else for our problems instead of taking responsibility for ourselves. No one owes us anything in life. If we have been dealt a bad hand, it is up to us to fix it. We can’t change the past, we can only fix ourselves for the future.
Relationship Advice – 5 Things A Man Should Not Let A Woman Talk Him Into
I know that a lot of Ladies are not going to like me for this, but we can’t always “male bash”. There are a lot of good MEN out there that let bad WOMEN walk all over them. So here are 5 Things A Man Shouldn’t Let A Woman Talk Him Into
1. Talk Him into marrying Her:
Sometimes men get married for all the wrong reasons. Most of the time, the woman has talked him into doing this crazy act.
Men you shouldn’t marry a woman because she had a baby with you. You shouldn’t marry because you’re afraid she is going to leave you. And you shouldn’t marry a woman because of money.
You should marry her because you love Her. Because you to want the same things in life and are willing to work together to get them.
If you marry a woman that has talked you into marrying her, 8 times out of 10, it is going to end in divorce. So marry her because you want to.
2. Having Unprotected Sex With Her:
Everything that glitters is not gold. So, just because she looks like she is “clean“, doesn’t mean that she is. There are some nasty woman out there trying to give diseases away because someone gave it to them. Men and Women need to protect themselves because their life depends on it.
3. Cross Dress For Her:
NEVER let her talk you into cross dressing “for laughs” and taking pictures of it. There is no reason why a man should wear women’s clothes – that is not SEXY. They make men’s clothing for a reason and that is for men to wear them.
4. Commit a Crime
This was mentioned in my other blog about things Women Shouldn’t let Men talk them into. The same goes for men.
Some women ask for lots of things and some men will steal and nearly kill to please their woman. This is foolish.
Your freedom is precious and you should never risk it to please someone else. If they really love you, they would never ask you for anything that would require you to risk your freedom.
5. Feeling Insecure
A lot of women have the tendency to make their man feel smaller. Whether or not it is on purpose, a man should always stand up for himself in these instances.
Many women are guilty of making our man feel inadequate financially, sexually, emotionally, or whatever. This is wrong and men should never allow themselves to be belittled. A woman that really loves you will encourage you and accept your imperfections, since we are not perfect either.
- You’re having sex two times a day.
- You’re getting your hair and nails done ever week.
- Buying new outfits to look good for each other.
But as life changes for us, so do we change. And sometimes, change is not always good. I have a code I live by: “Don’t start something you can’t finish.” We, as people, get so busy in our lives that we forget what it took to get our significant other and make them happy. We don’t take the time out of the day to do what we used to. Maybe because we are tired of cleaning the house, cooking and running after the kids all day. Or maybe you had a hard day at work and all you want to do is watch a little TV and then go to bed. Whatever your case may be, it is so important to take time out of your busy life to do what you used to do if your relationship is worth it. So the first thing we have to do ladies, is
- Get the baby out the bed.
- Get rid of the granny panties.
- Put on some kind of “smell good” that he likes.
Sometimes women are selfish when it comes to our man. We can listen and serve a guy at work all day but when it comes to serving our man, we are like “he ain’t my father, he can’t tell me what to do”. It’s time to get rid of that stinking thinking. Sometimes you have to follow in order to lead. So the next time your husband comes home, rub his feet– even if they are ugly and rough. Give him a back and head massage. Find someone to keep the kids and pop out of the closet naked. Give him a happy ending from his hard day, even if you don’t get pleased the way you want to. It is not always about you. It may take a week are two for him to catch on, but he will. And men –you have to do the same. Do something nice for your wife –that she likes. Men try to please us by doing something they think we might like. And that is were you go wrong.