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5 Things You Should Never Let A Man Influence You To Do!!!!!!

5 Things You Should Never Let A Man Influence You To Do!!!!!!

If you love me, then you would _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _”- you fill in the blanks.How many times has a man told you that?ta

Or how about this one “You need to prove to me how much you love me.”

True love has no circumstances , there is only love. So there should never be a situation that calls for you to prove your love for him.

While there are a lot of things that we shouldn’t be influenced to do, these are the top 5 on my list of things.

1. Have sex with him if your not ready:

This has to be one of the biggest No-No‘s. You cannot find love in sex. Having sex with him is not going to prove to him that you love him. Even if he says that it will. You should not have sex with someone until you’re ready. So many women make this mistake and they are the only one that gets hurt in the end.

Sex, for most women, is an emotional thing. While, for most man, it is a more physical thing. So having sex with him is not proving to him that you love him.

2. Tattooing his name on your body:

I know, at the time when you’re getting his name tattooed on your body, you are thinking you’re going to be together forever. But, in most cases, that is not always true. How crazy can you be to get his name tattooed on you when he is not willing to do the same? How much does he really love you?

So, if you and the guy that you were soooo in love with decide to separate, do you really think that the next man wants to see another man’s name on your body? Would you want to see another woman’s name on his body? I know I wouldn’t.

Any man that suggests that you put their name on your body is only doing it for ownership and I’m not anybody’s property! So, tattooing his name is not an expression of love.

3.Assisting him with doing anything illegal:

 Women, nowadays, talk about being a ‘down ass chick‘. I work with plenty of women that have went to prison for doing some man’s crime. A man really doesn’t love you if he ask you to do something illegal. How can you put your life in harms way for him, especially if you have children? I’m not going to be sitting up in nobody’s jail for no man, while my child gets molested by some man in foster care – all for being a down ass chick.

My life and my child’s life are worth so much more than that. If a man convinces you to do something illegal to prove to him that you love him then you’re just plain STUPID.

4.Believing he will leave his wife for you:

I know that this is going to be a touchy topic.

No woman wants to believe that the man that they are in love with is not really in love with them. Men who are married understand that their is this thing called divorce. And if they really don’t want to be with their wife and really want to be with you, they will act on the process of getting a divorce.

Sometimes, we women are so blinded by what we want, we don’t sit down and make sense of everything that is going on in this unhealthy relationship. We just keep listening to his lies and games and continue to get caught up in his web of deception.

If he loves you like he says he does, he wouldn’t want to see you hurt and alone another day in your life. All this man is doing is playing the numbers game – seeing how long you will hang on and continue to let him use you up.

And if he really decides to leave his wife why would you want to be with this untrustworthy, dishonest, lying, cheating man. If he did it to her, what makes you think that he is not going to do it to you. He doesn’t RESPECT You He doesn’t RESPECT his wife and he doesn’t RESPECT himself.

5.Stay with him if He is beating on you:

I have seen many talk shows, TV shows, movies and was a victim myself of this very act.

“He loves me even thought he beats on me.” “NO THE HELL HE DOESN’T”

Woman, you need to get out that relationship as fast as you can before you end up DEAD.

If someone loves, you they will not hurt you on purpose. Do not allow a man to convince you to stay if he is beating on you. There is not enough words in the English Dictionary that can explain why your eye is busted up again. Why he knocked your tooth out. Why he broke your arm.

There is no reason in the world why you should let someone keep apologizing to you for doing the same act to you over and over and over again. He really doesn’t love you.

Women, please be smart in choosing who you love and what you are willing to do for them. Don’t be with someone because they look good or got a lot of money. Love someone who loves you as much as they love themselves.


November 16, 2009 at 12:46 pm Leave a comment

How to bring Intimacy back into the bedroom?????

How to bring Intimacy back into the bedroom?????   When you hear the word Intimacy what do you think of?   The world English Dictionary say that intimacy means. A close personal relationship, a quiet and private atmosphere, a detailed knowledge resulting from a close or long association or study, a private and personal utterance or action– and the one I love the best –a sexual act or sexual intercourse.   And from my experience you need all of these things to have a great intimae relationship with your Significant other.   So you may ask, how do I bring back Intimacy into my relationship?   Have you ever heard the saying it is easy to fall in love but it is hard to stay in love? That is not always true. I think the reason we fall out of love is because we stop doing what we used to do.   In the beginning of a relationship, we are in what you call the Awe stage. When you do whatever it takes to impress that person.   

  • You’re having sex two times a day.
  • You’re getting your hair and nails done ever week.
  • Buying new outfits to look good for each other.

But as life changes for us, so do we change. And sometimes, change is not always good.   I have a code I live by: “Don’t start something you can’t finish.”   We, as people, get so busy in our lives that we forget what it took to get our significant other and make them happy.   We don’t take the time out of the day to do what we used to. Maybe because we are tired of cleaning the house, cooking and running after the kids all day.    Or maybe you had a hard day at work and all you want to do is watch a little TV and then go to bed.   Whatever your case may be, it is so important to take time out of your busy life to do what you used to do if your relationship is worth it.   So the first thing we have to do ladies, is    

  1. Get the baby out the bed.
  2. Get rid of the granny panties.
  3. Put on some kind of “smell good” that he likes.

Sometimes women are selfish when it comes to our man. We can listen and serve a guy at work all day but when it comes to serving our man, we are like “he ain’t my father, he can’t tell me what to do”.   It’s time to get rid of that stinking thinking.   Sometimes you have to follow in order to lead.   So the next time your husband comes home, rub his feet– even if they are ugly and rough.   Give him a back and head massage. Find someone to keep the kids and pop out of the closet naked. Give him a happy ending from his hard day, even if you don’t get pleased the way you want to.   It is not always about you. It may take a week are two for him to catch on, but he will. And men –you have to do the same.   Do something nice for your wife –that she likes.  Men try to please us by doing something they think we might like. And that is were you go wrong.   

So turn that bedroom back into that Sanctuary that it is supposed to be, by bring back the Intimacy for you and your partner.   Light some candles, play some soft music.   Bring back that old sexy life that you had when you first got together. 


November 8, 2009 at 6:09 am 1 comment

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